Action 79

I adopt a “can-do” attitude of doing “whatever it takes.” I can experiment with new behaviors and new ways of doing things; pick a tool from my “resilience toolkit” and practice it. I can cultivate my will power. Will power is not just a matter of having it or not. Not only can I make changes, but I can keep it up.

“The willingness to do creates the ability to do.”

Useful Information

“For resilient individuals, readjustment is a marathon, not a sprint. It is a team sport, like a relay race. They have the will/stamina to make the transition successfully. Readjustment to civilian life takes time. Readjustment is a process, a journey, not an event, and is something everyone is involved in.”

As noted in Action #28, resilient service members have grit, will and stamina to make the transition to civilian life successfully. They are determined to be a member of the 70% who “make it.”

“Resilient individuals have confidence in their ability to make a smooth transition and handle bumps and detours on their journey.”

The trauma expert Stephen Joseph (2011) has summarized this “can-do” attitude in the form of a “T.H.R.I.V.E.” model. “T.H.R.I.V.E.” is an acronym that reminds individuals of the steps required to bolster their resilience and journey toward personal growth.

T.H.R.I.V.E. Model:

  • T Take Stock
  • H Harvest Hope
  • R Re-author one’s “story”
  • I Identify Change
  • V Value Change
  • E Express Change in Action

How can you “take stock?” Think of times when you felt a little better and when things were going your way. What happened? What were you doing or not doing; feeling or not feeling; thinking or not thinking? How were others reacting to you when these better times occurred? Once you figure out what works, do more of it.

Action 80