I adopt a “can-do” attitude of doing “whatever it takes.” I can experiment with new behaviors and new ways of doing things; pick a tool from my “resilience toolkit” and practice it. I can cultivate my will power. Will power is not just a matter of having it or not. Not only can I make changes, but I can keep it up.
“The willingness to do creates the ability to do.”
“For resilient individuals, readjustment is a marathon, not a sprint. It is a team sport, like a relay race. They have the will/stamina to make the transition successfully. Readjustment to civilian life takes time. Readjustment is a process, a journey, not an event, and is something everyone is involved in.”
As noted in Action #28, resilient service members have grit, will and stamina to make the transition to civilian life successfully. They are determined to be a member of the 70% who “make it.”
“Resilient individuals have confidence in their ability to make a smooth transition and handle bumps and detours on their journey.”
The trauma expert Stephen Joseph (2011) has summarized this “can-do” attitude in the form of a “T.H.R.I.V.E.” model. “T.H.R.I.V.E.” is an acronym that reminds individuals of the steps required to bolster their resilience and journey toward personal growth.
- T Take Stock
- H Harvest Hope
- R Re-author one’s “story”
- I Identify Change
- V Value Change
- E Express Change in Action
How can you “take stock?” Think of times when you felt a little better and when things were going your way. What happened? What were you doing or not doing; feeling or not feeling; thinking or not thinking? How were others reacting to you when these better times occurred? Once you figure out what works, do more of it.