I revisit the site of combat or memorial site and participate in commemorative services. I can maintain a psychological bond with those who have died.
Bobby Kennedy gave a speech on the night of Martin Luther King’s assassination and quoted the poet Aeschylus:
“He who learns must suffer. And even in our sleep pain that cannot forget, falls drop by drop upon the heart, and in our despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God.”
“I feel grief for people. Anybody who has had a tragedy in their life, I can feel their pain.”
“Thou shalt not forget is my first commandment. To forget is to dishonor.”
“There is still one thing we can do for those we loved and lost. We could not keep them alive. Perhaps we could not even significantly lessen their pain, but the one crucial thing that we can do for them after their death is to let them be witnesses for God and for life. The dead depend on us for their redemption and their immortality.”
—Rabbi Harold Kushner